Dear Steve  ... a few words from the incomparable Joyce Grenfell, that I find inspiring.  Perhaps you know them?

If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone, 
Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice 
But be the usual selves that I have known. 
Weep if you must, 
Parting is hell, 
But life goes on, 
So sing as well.