I tend to avoid the word baggage because it can be seen as negative. We all have a history that has made us who we are. It needs to be recognised, understood and discussed in an open and frank way because it shouldn't be avoided or ignored. It's a tall order especially when you're trying to impress someone. The whole process can be disheartening especially as I approach the two year anniversary of Jane going into the hospice... To quote Mr Spock "it's life Jim but not as we know it"
Thanks for your supportive comment xx