We're finding the trick to making the trips ok is to include something else such as our cinema visits. Next time Jane will be visiting on her own on the train which I think is more gruelling than the road journey. She leaves home just before 10am and returns at about 10 pm with only a few hours at the care home. If Jane's mum is asleep then it can be a totally wasted journey. It does give Jane a chance to write emails on the train and also to investigate how the home is looking after her mum.