<img class="alignright size-thumbnail wp-image-3191" src="http://pigyard.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/counsellingfeb16-200x150.jpg" alt="counselling(feb16)" width="200" height="150" />It's been a busy day. I'm trying to go swimming every Wednesday morning so I was determined to get over to Louth and fit in 28 lengths. After lunch I had a bereavement counselling session with one of the staff at St Barnabas Hospice. I had little expectation of the process because as everyone says, there's no way round grief, you just have to work your way through it and the feeling never leaves you completely because the life change is so traumatic. After a tearful hour (I ran out of hankies) I arranged to go back in three weeks as a yardstick to make sure I'm coming to terms with the situation.

At the end of the afternoon I met with an estate agent to get a valuation of the house, not because I'm thinking of moving, but it needs to be done as part of the probate application. I've had to record all of Jane's and our joint assets - not that Inheritance Tax is due when assets transfer between spouses but it just has to be done. Even in death bureaucracy doesn't leave you alone.