You still have the memories of that 'knowing' Steve and they will be there when you need them to be, but you are also starting to make new, different memories, not to replace the others but to live there alongside them.

Ray and I made the decision to plant a clematis in memory of Jane and if the picture on the packaging can be trusted (and as you know from duvet cover experience it can't always be), it will have lovely yellow hanging flowers which will bring sunshine into our lives, just like Jane did.

Maisie really seems to be concentrating in the photo, presumably on the T.V., but perhaps the 15 minutes on your lap is 'comforting' time and then she needs her own space to fully relax. Cats have a way of knowing what is needed and when.